“My Person”


She’s my person. If I murdered someone, she’s the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor. She’s my person.”

Christina Yang, Grey’s Anatomy

everyone needs a person. Everyone needs a person in their life that they can rely on and go to for advice when things get tricky.

For individuals living with Autism, this person is even more essential. Growing up on the spectrum you never feel like you fit in, you always feel somehow ‘out’ of it, not able to relate to your peers, finding it difficult to understand why.  You question yourself, feeling as if there is something ‘wrong’ with you, which is why you don’t fit it, all of which leaves you feeling alone, isolated and confused in the world around you.

Except when you’re with your person.

They provide stability, security and sense of belonging within any set environment. They are ‘safe’ and are seen as someone who can be trusted. They are invaluable, irreplaceable and incredibly special. They are able to take away the stresses of life; the turmoil, the pain and the anguish and turn you into a completely different, and fully able person. They are easy to talk to, down to earth and non-judgmental. They are someone who you can truly be you with, without any mask or acting.

For me this person has been there for me since my birth. They have been and continue to be my instruction manual for life. They have held me together when I thought I would apart and have been selflessly by my side through everything. Whether it has been staying up with me all night when I am too anxious to sleep or embracing my little quirks, they have been there.

My person, is my Mum.

Since I was little, I have had a Mother who consistently goes above and beyond for me. I have had a Mother who has embraced my difference whole-heartily and who has accepted me for who I am. I have had a Mother who has never once doubted my abilities or failed to be by my side when life was just too much.

My Mum has become more than a Mother, she has become my best and trusted friend who I would do absolutely anything for. She has become the person I turn to when I don’t know where to go and the woman I look up to and admire every day for her strength of character.

Mum, please stop doubting yourself. Never once have you nor will you let me down. You have done so much for me and I am forever grateful for the love you have shown me. I will never be able to fully express how thankful I am for all the things you have taught me or the ways in which you have supported me over the years.

I genuinely don’t know where I would be without you, so Mum, thanks for being “My Person!”

And to all the other Mothers out there with children on the Spectrum, you are doing an amazing job! We may not know how to tell you that with words or how to express it through actions, but you are! We love and appreciate you all so very much!

Lots of Love,



It’s NOT for Attention!

[So called] Mild Autism doesn’t mean one experiences Autism mildly… It means YOU experience their autism mildly. You may not know how hard they’ve had to work to get to the level they are at.

Adam Walton

Living with Asperger’s, it is easy to feel that you live in a bubble. It feels as if you are surrounded by an invisible barrier; a barrier that prevents you from communicating, socialising and getting close to others. A barrier that has you constantly living life an arm’s length away from the rest of the world. 

You see, Asperger’s isn’t a mild condition. It is something you live with every minute of every day. It is part of who you are and what makes you, well, YOU.

I’ve found that it’s difficult for people to understand just how much my Asperger’s affects my life. When you meet me, it isn’t immediately obvious that I am Autistic, which makes my behaviour seem out of place. What people sometimes forget is that Asperger’s is a social communication disorder, that leaves me feeling unable to communicate how I feel.

Often, it is easy to assume the way I react to situations is for attention, when in actual fact, it is an attempt to express an emotion. I easily become flustered when trying to talk about how I feel, and the result is a message that can be easily be confused for attention seeking behaviour.

I like to fiddle, I like to doodle and I like to listen to music. I like to avoid certain situations or set in my mind that I won’t go until the last second so I have less time to become anxious. This can all be confused for attention seeking – but it is not! It’s Aspergers which is a big part of who I am.

Let’s focus our attention on understanding and acceptance, always remembering “It’s NOT for Attention!”



The journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step.

Lao Tzu

My journey started on the 17th of February 2017 when I was officially diagnosed with Aspergers. For me, this was the first step in what has been a very long journey of self-discovery. 2 years later and I am still discovering who I am. Every day I am learning more and more about what make me, me. I , for the first time, am beginning to understand myself.

So, I invite you along on my journey of self-discovery as I share with you my Invisible Life – Living with Aspergers.